stop being scared

03/16/2009

I read an article about how important it is to not focus solely on maintaining independence in a relationship, but to allow yourself to be vulnerable with that person, and rely on them.
Done.
Now the article mentioned a painful past and the constant fear of being left, the constant defenses put up to ensure that they would not be so hurt when the time eventually came.
They mentioned in but they neglected to mention how to overcome that fear.
I guess it's something you're supposed to work through together.
By being open with the person about everything, even if it scares you. And allowing yourself to be stressed out for a little, just to get it off your chest, only to be calmed by the thought of who you're with.
Realizing that when they reassure you, they mean it, and they're not just being polite or trying to calm you down. They're there for you. And when they say it's only you that they want, they mean that too.
Yes, you'll still get scared. You're a girl. No matter how many spiders you've seen get crushed, you still scream like a little bitch everytime one appears.
As someone very wise and very incredible once told me, it's okay to be scared, and it's expected, but someday you'll be able to recognize that those fears are irrational.
Because he loves you. And you love him.
So stop getting worried that when he goes out and drinks, he will be dying to take some hot slutty girl home. Or that your poor health as of late will convince him that you'll never be worth the trouble.
Because now that you're reading these things out in front of you, they make you sound absolutely crazy. So just be happy he loves you.
That same stupidly wise and incredible person offers the best advice. Just be happy and in love.